NOT FOR NUTHIN’: Saying ‘I Do’ shouldn’t be a constitutional decision

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By Joanna DelBuono

Brooklyn Daily

Stop the presses! The Supreme Court justices, all nine of them, have had to decide on marriage — the same-sex kind that is — in the appeal against California’s Proposition 8. In the case of Hollingsworth v. Perry, the judges have to determine, is it constitutional or is it not?

I say, what’s to decide? If two people, no matter what their sex is, want to jump the broom, tie the knot and manacle themselves to each other — for richer or poorer, in good times and in bad, for better or worse, till death do they part — let ‘em.

Marriage isn’t about same sex, hell it isn’t even about sex — we married folk know that for sure.

Sure, sex is good on the honeymoon, but marriage is for the long haul, and we all know that you can’t have sensational sex 24/7. No matter what Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda may say, whether gay, straight or indifferent, great 24/7 sex is not possible — it might be nice, but highly improbable. So what is marriage?

Here’s the 411 — marriage is all about the dirty laundry, the dishes in the sink. It’s about the good, the bad, and how to pay the bills. Marriage is about learning to handle the looney in-laws, which holidays are spent with which side, and integrating two disparate groups into one harmonious family. Marriage is about who gets to go food shopping and who gets to unload and put the food away— Compromise — marriage is big on compromise.

Mostly, marriage is about the love. The abiding love that two people share for each other and how they decided to spend the rest of their days building a future. Marriage is about the hard times and the good. Marriage is about the kids, the pets and where to take vacations. Marriage is about the stability of the two who live it everyday, not in the decision of nine moldy justices enshrouded in black robes.

I don’t know why it should make a difference if the two people in the marriage are both male or both female or even if they are of the same species? Who cares? Certainly not in this day and age.

And it damn sure shouldn’t concern the government. No, the government has enough to be concerned about. Its sole job should be to protect our affairs of state, make sure our foreign affairs are in order, regulate our economy, and enact laws that protect us citizens. It is not to determine what the constitutionality of two people saying “I do” is.

Government doesn’t belong in matters of the heart, any more than it belongs in matters of religion, or what we eat, or how much of it.

Not for nuthin,™ but marriage isn’t about Supreme Court decisions — it’s about commitment, love, and of course, whose turn is it to wash the dirty dishes in the sink.

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